Have you ever been on the receiving end of someone blaming you for the way their life is not working? My first reaction is to fight back and get defensive. However, when I remember to take a moment and not step into the drama, it allows me to stay neutral and hold up a mirror. Sometimes this is easier said than done, although with practice, allows greater awareness for myself and possibly the other person.
There is no manual for navigating divorce, just as there is no manual for raising children or living life. There are different vantage points to all situations and everyone’s perspective is unique. We never know how it truly is to be someone other than ourselves. Each of us is here to experience life and all it has to offer.
A different response to life’s sufferings could simply be living more in compassion for the journey we each are walking.
No matter what is coming at you, take a moment to sit in your heart and wait for your response. In todays fast-pace, give-an-answer-now mentality, we feel the pressure to respond quickly. It’s ok to honor ourselves by checking in with our inner voice and whether or not the words directed toward us have merit. You won’t know until you take a moment, breathe and ask your heart, not your head, “is this accurate?” Surprising answers may reveal themselves.
My friend, Kelly, shared with me about a moment she and her husband had in their garage when he was moving out and he said a lot of negative things about what he thought of her. She thought, maybe he’s right and then she felt and said, “You may think those things about me, but I don’t feel those things about my Self.” He later called and said, “You’re right, I’m sorry I said those things.”
It’s a graceful act of dignity when the other side of heated moments can lead you to your Higher Self. Our mind gets the message that it is our heart that will be the driver, and our ego is welcome to sit in the backseat.
As always- Ignite your light and let it shine bright.
From My Heart to Yours,